A Guide To Chastity

A guide to chastity

Chastity, you’ve read about it, you’ve seen photos of devices, but WHAT is it all about?

From my own perspective as a domme, knowing a submissive is locked under my control gives me just that, control, which we know is a huge kink of mine. I thrive off knowing you are unable to release, that your attention will be mine, that you are unable to get an erection whilst I tease you, or that you are simply wish to have a clitty rather than a dicklet. A good submissive is attentive to their dominant, and chastity encourages just that.

Let’s explore, shall we?

Finding Your First Cage

Measure yourself multiple times when flacid as the size changes, go for the average, or maybe a little smaller since you want the cage to completely prevent erections. Having a cage that’s too big will allow the penis to begin expanding and get half an erection going which becomes quite painful, this is especially a problem during the night time… Base ring design, there’s about 3 different styles for the base rings The traditional fll ring, which tends to be a bit of a pain to slip on if you need to be in a tight ring but have big balls. Ergonomic designed base rings, contour to the human anatomy better, less chance of your thigh hitting the base ring. Hinged designs, great for easy on and off, sometimes they can pinch the skin, or if hair gets stuck in the hinge. There’s no right answer to which is best, it depends on the sub.

After you have your measurements, look around for stores that sell the cage which caught your eye, preferably one that comes with different sized base rings as you won’t be able to tell exactly which one is best for your body without wearing one for a while. Nothing worse than getting a cage you’ve been excited for, then it falls off. When the cage arrives, before trying it on, make sure you thoroughly wash it with soap and hot water, and run your finger over every inch of the surface to make sure there’s no sharp edges to catch your sensitive parts.

Wearing The First Cage

Putting the cage on might be a bit of a challenge at first, especially depending on the design, but keep practicing putting it on, and you’ll be surprised how fast the process becomes. Start slowly, wear it an hour, go about your work around the house, make sure you can easily sit, and walk without much discomfort. Start increasing the time locked gradually. Gradually because you need to let your dick get used to it’s new prison, and not get extremely chafed. Try going outside for a half hour walk. Notice the differences when taking bigger strides, is it still comfortable? Does it move as the skin gets sweatier and starts sliding down your shaft? After you’re comfortable wearing it for 8 hours straight, with no more chafing, pick a weekend and try going from Friday night until Sunday night locked. Make sure you have your keys available in case of being woken up by one of those pesky erections. If you want to power through it without removing your cage, the best thing to do is get out of bed and start walking around a little, it will make the painful erection subside much faster. After you’ve managed to wear it a whole weekend, we come to one of the most important parts. Remember that you can’t go from never wearing a cage to being 24/7 locked for months on end, it takes a lot of practice to know how to keep yourself clean during lockup, and this you have to develop on your own. Ask yourself, how was it to urinate with it on? Is there any noticeable bad odours, do you feel like enough water got inside the cage to clean you off? Is there any rashes or chafed skin? The answers to these questions bring us to the last phase.

Now that you’ve had some experience with a cage, time to try to find one that fits your needs better than the first. Finding the perfect cage is a process of trial and error for the most part, and that’s why it’s a good idea to buy a few different designs when you’re new to being caged, this way you understand what suits you best. Open steel designs are great for cleanliness and the ideal candidates for long term wear, but more chance of the skin getting pinch, and stimulating yourself through the bars. Enclosed resin cages are great for feeling that complete isolation, but cleanliness can be an issue, so multiple removals per week should be performed. After you get your cage, repeat the steps above, and then buy a third, and then a fourth. Keep going until you know exactly what you need, the go spend the big money on the name brand, or bespoke cages.

Happy Locking and Loading lovelies!

Kinks & Kisses

Lady Lucy